“We cannot educate white women and take them by the hand. Most of us are willing to help but we can’t do the white woman’s homework for her. That’s an energy drain. More times than she cares to remember, Nellie Wong, Asian American feminist writer, has been called by white women wanting a list of Asian American women who can give readings or workshops. We are in danger of being reduced to purveyors of resource lists.”—
Feminism needs to be authentically intersectional, or nothing at all. This speaks volumes
Shout out to interracial, bisexual, pansexual, genderfluid, and otherwise “gray” or “mixed” people who get to deal with shit from pretty much every angle all while having your identity erased, ignored, or redefined for you whenever another group sees fit. I see you, love you, and want to make things better.
(I actually comfortably fit no where: Topic of the Day)
I really Internet regret nothing more than ever trying to learn about Israel-Palestine anything on Facebook because it has made people I used to trust a lot become really viscerally distressing to me.
Like fear brings out really ugly things in people?
I’ve also never seen an issue become so racialised in a way that’s not even mentally tangible to me anymore?
I always like being reminded that I’m not “good” at being a POC.
I always liked being so alienated from Jewish culture that I’m not even acknowledged as also being Jewish in any way whilst being blamed for not doing ‘anything’ to protect you from something no one has tried to make clear in a way that doesn’t feel like an attack or pressure.*
Because I’m really trying to make my Facebook be a shrine to anti-Semitism.
Because in my wanting to reclaim my Jewishness and knowing I want to rear my future children with, I want to have explicit fears about my and my family’s safety.
Because that makes so much fucking sense.
(*I’ve held the hands of black friends enabling various displays of anti-blackness and I’m very aware it isn’t easy, but don’t alienate people who share something with you that aren’t able to know about it? / I’m not the only estranged Jewish person who has felt alienated by you or this, so I know at least I’m not crazy).
I don’t know how you can say you wish a word were a slur, then aggressively negate the lived experience of a POC who has experienced that same word as a slur (where multiple factors are coming into play), and—???
(this is like when C and R were using the n-word to describe people and I was in the car with them and they were so angry [and scared] and like—)
~I want white people who are never going to say or do disconcerting white people things~
~~That’s all I want~~
If you’ve spent any time discussing or reading about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, I guarantee you’ve heard some variation of this statement:
OMG, Jews think any criticism of Israel is anti-Semitic!
In the interests of this post, I’m going to assume that the people who express such sentiments are acting in good faith and really don’t mean to cause pain to or problems for Diaspora Jewry. For those good-faith people, I present some guidelines for staying on the good side of that admittedly murky line, along with the reasoning why the actions I list are problematic. (And bad-faith people, you can no longer plead ignorance if you engage in any of these no-nos. Consider yourselves warned.) In no particular order:
Don’t use the terms “bloodthirsty,” “lust for Palestinian blood,” or similar. Historically, Jews have been massacred in the belief that we use the blood of non-Jews (particularly of children) in our religious rituals. This belief still persists in large portions of the Arab world (largely because white Europeans deliberately spread the belief among Arabs) and even in parts of the Western world. Murderous, inhumane, cruel, vicious—fine. But blood…just don’t go there. Depicting Israel/Israelis/Israeli leaders eating children is also a no-no, for the same reason.
Don’t use crucifixion imagery. Another huge, driving motivation behind anti-Semitism historically has been the belief that the Jews, rather than the Romans, crucified Jesus. As in #1, this belief still persists. There are plenty of other ways to depict suffering that don’t call back to ancient libels.
Don’t demand that Jews publicly repudiate the actions of settlers and extremists. People who make this demand are assuming that Jews are terrible people or undeserving of being heard out unless they “prove” themselves acceptable by non-Jews’ standards. (It’s not okay to demand Palestinians publicly repudiate the actions of Hamas in order to be accepted/trusted, either.)
Don’t say “the Jews” when you mean Israel. I think this should be pretty clear. The people in power in Israel are Jews, but not all Jews are Israelis (let alone Israeli leaders).
Don’t say “Zionists” when you mean Israel. Zionism is no more a dirty word than feminism. It is simply the belief that the Jews should have a country in part of their ancestral homeland where they can take refuge from the anti-Semitism and persecution they face everywhere else. It does not mean a belief that Jews have a right to grab land from others, a belief that Jews are superior to non-Jews, or any other such tripe, any more than feminism means hating men. Unless you believe that Israel should entirely cease to exist, you are yourself Zionist. Furthermore, using “Zionists” in place of “Israelis” is inaccurate and harmful. The word “Zionists” includes Diasporan Jews as well (most of whom support a two-state solution and pretty much none of whom have any influence on Israel’s policies) and is used to justify anti-Semitic attacks outside Israel (i.e., they brought it on themselves by being Zionists). And many of the Jews IN Israel who are most violent against Palestinians are actually anti-Zionist—they believe that the modern state of Israel is an offense against God because it isn’t governed by halakha (traditional Jewish religious law). Be careful with the labels you use.
Don’t call Jews you agree with “the good Jews.” Imposing your values on another group is not okay. Tokenizing is not okay. Appointing yourself the judge of what other groups can or should believe is not okay.
Don’t use your Jewish friends or Jews who agree with you as shields. (AKA, “I can’t be anti-Semitic, I have Jewish friends!” or “Well, Jew X agrees with me, so you’re wrong.”) Again, this behavior is tokenizing and essentially amounts to you as a non-Jew appointing yourself arbiter over what Jews can/should feel or believe. You don’t get to do that.
Don’t claim that Jews are ethnically European. Jews come in many colors—white is only one. Besides, the fact that many of us have some genetic mixing with the peoples who tried to force us to assimilate (be they German, Indian, Ethiopian, Italian…) doesn’t change the fact that all our common ancestral roots go back to Israel.
Don’t claim that Jews “aren’t the TRUE/REAL Jews.” Enough said.
Don’t claim that Jews have no real historical connection to Israel/the Temple Mount. Archaeology and the historical record both establish that this is false.
Don’t accuse Diasporan Jews of dual loyalties or treason. This is another charge that historically has been used to justify persecution and murder of Jews. Having a connection to our ancestral homeland is natural. Having a connection to our co-religionists who live there is natural. It is no more treasonous for a Jew to consider the well-being of Israel when casting a vote than for a Muslim to consider the well-being of Islamic countries when voting. (Tangent: fuck drone strikes. End tangent.)
Don’t claim that the Jews control the media/banks/country that isn’t Israel. Yet another historical anti-Semitic claim is that Jews as a group intend to control the world and try to achieve this aim through shadowy, sinister channels. There are many prominent Jews in the media and in the banking industry, yes, but they aren’t engaged in any kind of organized conspiracy to take over those industries, they simply work in those industries. The phrase “the Jews control” should never be heard in a debate/discussion of Israel.
Don’t depict the Magen David (Star of David) as an equivalent to the Nazi swastika. The Magen David represents all Jews—not just Israelis, not just people who are violent against Palestinians, ALL JEWS. When you do this, you are painting all Jews as violent, genocidal racists. DON’T.
Don’t use the Holocaust/Nazism/Hitler as a rhetorical prop. The Jews who were murdered didn’t set foot in what was then Palestine, let alone take part in Israeli politics or policies. It is wrong and appropriative to try to use their deaths to score political points. Genocide, racism, occupation, murder, extermination—go ahead and use those terms, but leave the Holocaust out of it.
In visual depictions (i.e., political cartoons and such), don’t depict Israel/Israelis as Jewish stereotypes. Don’t show them in Chassidic, black-hat garb. Don’t show them with exaggerated noses or frizzled red hair or payus (earlocks). Don’t show them with horns or depict them as the Devil. Don’t show them cackling over/hoarding money. Don’t show them drinking blood or eating children (see #1). Don’t show them raping non-Jewish women. The Nazis didn’t invent the tropes they used in their propaganda—all of these have been anti-Semitic tropes going back centuries. (The red hair trope, for instance, goes back to early depictions of Judas Iscariot as a redhead, and the horns trope stems from the belief that Jews are the Devil’s children, sent to destroy the world as best we can for our “father.”)
Don’t use the phrase “the chosen people” to deride or as proof of Jewish racism. When Jews say we are the chosen people, we don’t mean that we are biologically superior to others or that God loves us more than other groups. Judaism in fact teaches that everyone is capable of being a righteous, Godly person, that Jews have obligations to be ethical and decent to “the stranger in our midst,” and that non-Jews don’t get sent to some kind of damnation for believing in another faith. When we say we’re the chosen people, we mean that, according to our faith, God gave us extra responsibilities and codes of behavior that other groups aren’t burdened with, in the form of the Torah. That’s all it means.
Don’t claim that anti-Semitism is eradicated or negligible. It isn’t. In fact, according to international watchdog groups, it’s sharply on the rise. (Which sadly isn’t surprising—anti-Semitism historically surges during economic downturns, thanks to the belief that Jews control the banks.) This sort of statement is extremely dismissive and accuses us of lying about our own experiences.
Don’t say that since Palestinians are Semites, Jews/Israelis are anti-Semitic, too. You do not get to redefine the oppressions of others, nor do you get to police how they refer to that oppression. This also often ties into #8. Don’t do it. Anti-Semitism has exclusively meant anti-Jewish bigotry for a good century plus now. Coin your own word for anti-Palestinian oppression, or just call it what it is: racism mixed with Islamophobia.
Don’t blow off Jews telling you that what you’re saying is anti-Semitic with some variant of the statement at the top of this post. Not all anti-Israel speech is anti-Semitic (a lot of it is valid, much-deserved criticism), but some certainly is. Actually give the accusation your consideration and hear the accuser out. If they fail to convince you, that’s fine. But at least hear them out (without talking over them) before you decide that.
I’m sure this isn’t a comprehensive list, but it covers all the hard-and-fast rules I can think of. (I welcome input for improving it.)
But wait! Why should I care about any of this? I’m standing up for people who are suffering!
You should care because nonsense like the above makes Jews sympathetic to the Palestinian plight wary and afraid of joining your cause. You should care because, unfortunately, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict has correlated to an uptick in anti-Semitic attacks around the world, attacks on Jews who have no say in Israeli politics, and this kind of behavior merely aggravates that, whether you intend it to or not.
The Israeli-Palestinian conflict is a real minefield in that it’s a clash between oppressed people of color and an ethnoreligious group that is dominant in Israel but marginalized and brutalized elsewhere (often nowadays on the exact grounds that they share ethnoreligious ties with the people of Israel), so it’s damned hard to toe the line of being socially aware and sensitive to both groups. I get that. But I think it is possible to toe that line, and I hope this post helps with that. (And if a Palestinian makes a similar list of problematic arguments they hear targeted at them, I’d be happy to reblog it, too.)
So, TL;DR version:
Do go ahead and criticize Israel.
Don’t use anti-Semitic stereotypes or tropes.
Don’t use overly expansive language that covers Jews as a whole and not just Israel.
Don’t use lies to boost your claims.
Do engage Jews in conversation on the issues of Israel and of anti-Semitism, rather than simply shutting them down for disagreeing.
Do try to be sensitive to the fact that, fair or not, many people take verbal or violent revenge for the actions of Israelis on Diasporan Jews, and Diasporan Jews are understandably frightened and upset by this.
My first year would have actually been immaculate if my advisor gave me sensible/realistic advising, but my life needed to be derailed for something I guess. I don’t like when people end up being financial liabilities to me and then I can’t do anything about it like— Still bitter.
I don’t want to go and I don’t know why I just want to stay in bed some more or just exist at home
I don’t want to not be at home (Just let me stay at home)
(I don’t really want to be at home).
Seeing Dirk yesterday was really good; Dirk makes me feel better in a really profound way. Like it’s outside of himself too (in a comfort in my own competence and ability sort of way) (Everything about Dirk is my favourite thing about Dirk)
I should stop liberally missing my Rx and read that one e-mail; [I miss seeing Katie].
“All of the dislike comments the entire time have been about the people who discredit that inherently discredit because they dislike and the reasons they dislike that in their mind they associate to being grounds for discrediting”—
WELCOME TO OUR LIVES. WELCOME TO YEARS OF SEARCHING FOR SPACES WHERE WE CAN INVITE ALL OUR BROWN, ALL OUR QUEER, ALL OUR BROKEN. WELCOME TO THE MILLIONS OF MAGAZINES WE HAVE WALLPAPERED OUR MINDS WITH. WELCOME TO THAT ONE WORKSHOP WHERE WE ASKED “WHAT ABOUT RACE” AND THEY TOLD US IT GOT COMPLICATED “WHEN YOU INTRODUCE RACE.” WELCOME TO BEING A PROBLEM. WELCOME TO BEING IRRELEVANT. WELCOME TO THAT PORN FILM, WELCOME TO THAT HOLLYWOOD MOVIE, WELCOME TO THAT POLITICIAN, WELCOME TO THAT “NOT ME,” WELCOME TO THAT “NEVER ME.” WELCOME TO THAT PERPETUAL FEELING OF DISLOCATION – THAT DAILY RITUAL OF BEING PRESENT BUT NEVER BEING VISIBLE. WELCOME TO YOU NO LONGER BELONG HERE. WELCOME TO YOU NEVER BELONG HERE. WELCOME TO INVISIBILITY. HOW DOES IT FEEL TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOTHING? HOW DOES IT FEEL TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE AN AFTERTHOUGHT? RELISH IN THE COMPLETE ABSENCE OF OUR NOT GIVING A FUCK. RELISH IN HOW TERRIFYING IT IS FOR THE WORLD TO SLIP FROM YOUR FINGERS. WELCOME TO “NO I AM NOT INTERESTED IN FUCKING YOU.” WELCOME TO “YOUR OPINION NO LONGER MATTERS.” WE REFUSE TO APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR OWN SELF- ANNIHILATION. WE REFUSE TO APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR INADEQUACY. WE REFUSE TO APOLOGIZE FOR THE LIE YOUR PARENTS RECITED TO YOU WHEN YOU “BEAUTIFUL” WHEN YOU “POWERFUL” WHEN YOU “SIGNIFICANT.” WHAT DOES IT FEEL LIKE TO WATCH YOUR FANTASY DECAY ALL AROUND YOU? WHAT DOES IT FEEL LIKE TO DISAPPEAR IN THE SATURATION OF YOUR OWN UNBEARABLE WHITENESS OF BEING? #INSTAGRAM THAT. MAKE A FACEBOOK STATUS AND GET NO LIKES FOR IT. WRITE A NOVEL ABOUT IT AND REALIZE YOU HAVE NO ONE LEFT TO PUBLISH IT FOR YOU. SPIT IT TO THE TO THE VAST EMPTINESS OF THE STARS. BE GRATEFUL IF THEY HAVE THE CHARITY TO EVEN LISTEN FOR A SECOND.
My work here is done anyways. I broke the two of you. Exposed that she is a hypocritical backstabbing bitch that bitches about people on her blog more than anyone she bitches about does and that you are a wimpy little limp dick cunt of a man that can't stand up for himself have a fun summer now you two! ;)